Silent No More: March 2010

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Dad Kills 2. Shoots Himself

FYI- in Scottsdale, AZ today- apparently CNN has said that this was custody related, I sent this to Dr. Phil producer.

They are interested in exposing Richard Gardner in the next show on family court crisis! Good stuff.

http://www.azfamily.com/news/slideshows/89605277.html

Dad kills 2 kids, shoots himself at Scottsdale home

by Jennifer Thomas

Posted on March 31, 2010 at 10:09 AM

Updated today at 5:21 PM

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SCOTTSDALE -- A father reportedly shot his two children and then himself at a Scottsdale home Wednesday morning.

According to Scottsdale police Officer David Pubins, at approximately 8 a.m. 39-year-old Andre Leteve called 911 and said he had shot his child.

When police officers arrived at the home near Lincoln Drive and Scottsdale Road, they forced entry and found two small boys dead from apparent gunshot wounds. The kids ages are reportedly 5 years old and 15 months old.

Pubins said the father also shot himself. He was transported to a local hospital with non life-threatening injuries and is expected to survive.

3TV has learned Leteve was going through a divorce. Both he and his wife had completed parent education classes and were scheduled to appear in court on April 19.

The mother of the children reportedly had plans to take the kids out of state for a vacation and Leteve was attempting to stop those plans.

The So-Called Parental Alienation Christian View: Don't Go Trying to Get All Religious on Us Now

By the Brilliant Randi James

Ask yourself: Can you tell the difference between a nice wholesome Christian family and one who is not? And if so, what is/are the difference(s)? Don't fool yourself for the sake of trying to be holier than thou. We see Christian families on the news everyday for a variety of incidents that aren't so wholesome. But, someone will say they aren't Christian enough, they have backslid, they aren't really Christian, etc.

In Monika Logan's attempted appeal to the Christianity in you, she begins with this excerpt by Judith Wallerstein, a "scholar" whose works has been repeatedly misrepresented:

I discovered a well- known scholar’s excerpt, by Judith Wallerstein that reads, “We’ve seriously underestimated the long-term impact of divorce on children [and]…the numerous ways a child’s experience differ when growing up in a divorced family.”I am blessed as I do not know what it is like to be a child of divorce. I was raised in an intact home.

First off, the long-term impact isn't necessarily the divorce. This has been stated countless times in research. It is the conditions that existed prior to the actual divorce and then extend thereafter. Divorces don't happen in a vacuum.Children are often witnesses and participants of dysfunctional behaviors that pre-existed in the "intact" family. And what is an "intact" family anyway? Merely one that hasn't divorced? Divorce is only a legal procedure in which the government is involved. Intact doesn't mean better, or non-dysfunctional. As outsiders, we can only know what families choose to reveal to us. Everyone has a public and private face, even Christians.

Lastly, I am keenly aware that Churches frowns upon divorce and that Parental Alienation (PA) is misunderstand .I was taught that God hates divorce (see Malachi 2:16 NIV), but also was taught that God forgives. He is a God of grace and one that allows for second chances.

Churches frown upon divorce because of the inherently patriarchal and sexist attitudes that exist within its membership--amazingly, the same attitudes we see outside of the church. That God hates divorces but forgives is evidence of the contradictory nature of the Bible. People use whatever part of the Bible they see fit to support their opinion.

The idea of divorce does not occur to newly marrying couples.

It doesn't?

Divorce was also not Gods original intention. God allowed a clause about divorce to be included in the Law of Moses (Deuteronomy 24:1). God wanted to prevent men from dumping their wives for frivolous reasons. Subsequently, I started to wonder about children who dump their parents for frivolous reasons

Did God say anything of "allowing" women to "dump" their husbands? And what exactly would be regarded as frivolous reasons? Great segue to her opinion.

In some divorces, especially vitriolic divorces, one parent attempts to turn the child against the other parent. The parent desires to wreak havoc on the other parent’s relationship with the child; a few methods include cruel words and the allure of material gifts. Messages made by parents that are perpetual and poisonous produce troubled kids. Eventually, the relentless actions and words of embittered parents pay off. These kids’ discard relationships of once-loved parents and treat their parents as their worst foe.

Are these vitriolic divorces the same as the "high-conflict" ones? If so, we cannot make any assumptions about why this level of vitriol exists in a family. Again, remember, that families choose to reveal what they want to reveal. We cannot know what the child's original feelings were about his or her parent(s) unless we were a part of that child's inner world. Troubled kids are produced by a lot more than poisonous messages--troubled kids need an environment in which there are few resources/little support. Troubled kids are not treated like people but rather objects. Troubled kids' emotions and space are not validated or respected. The truth is, we cannot know the depth of feeling any child once had for his/her parents, based off our own observation, or the word of the other parent.

Sadly, many Christian parents whose kids reject them feel alone in their shame. Many believers fall prey to the idea that good parents always have good kids. They frequently support this standard by one preferred scripture, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” (Proverbs 22:6, NIV). Other scriptural lessons are discarded, such as Job or Aaron’s sons as seen in Leviticus 10.

Many kids reject their parents, even non-Christian ones. This is on account of a range of behaviors of that parent. Is it so hard to understand that just because someone is the parent, blood-relative, etc, that there is no guarantee that the temperaments will match...that they will have similar interests as their children? Love is not guaranteed to be reciprocated, nor can you dictate how someone else loves you. Children are people. How should we treat children? Well, Monika cites Proverbs 22:6, but a few verses later in, 22:15, it says this: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." She also mentions that Christians disregard Leviticus 10, where you can also find this part: “For every one that curseth his father or his mother shall surely be put to death.” (20:9) Hmmm.

Divided homes breeds deception, deceit, and disparagement. Common Christian advice is that parent’s post-divorce should keep the same chores, discipline, and rules. This guidance is helpful, but is not applicable to cases of PA. Dr. Warshak points out… “your children are being manipulated to serve as vehicles to express their other parents hostility…” (p.38). Parent’s in these cases do not care about the rejected parent’s wishes or their children’s best interests. It is a form of emotional abuse.

Non-divided homes breed the same things. How do you deal with it in those cases? The emphasis shouldn't be placed on thehome though, it is the people involved in the situation. Kids thrive with consistency and thus the same schedules should continue as possible. But we don't really hear that these days. All we hear is joint-custody--a situation that breeds no kind of continuity other than being a timeshare product. Separated parents can share parenting, where parenting was once shared before. Separated parents should not split 50-50 custody, where there was no 50-50 split in the child's time previously.

Children are being manipulated by parents who come to the sudden realization that, without the other parent's assistance, he/she has no real connection to his/her child. That parent did not build, maintain, and continue to foster a relationship with his/her own child. So now, in absence of any support, that parent refuses to understand the current dynamics are based on the past. And so that parent's escape, is to blame "alienation" on the parent to whom the child is closer. The parental alienation tactic allows an otherwise physically, emotionally, or spiritually absent parent to experience the absolution that is provided in Christianity.

In the cases where that parent was the abuser in the family, often times we cannot know because it was that same nice, wholesome, upstanding Christian neighbor.Abusers do seek to undermine the child's relationship with the parent to whom he/she is closer. This phenomena is not parental alienation.Parental alienation theorists are trying to mix all the definitions up in order to obscure an agenda--that the parental alienation tactic is historically based on acover for child sexual abuse. Even in the original definition of parental alienation, if domestic abuse was present, parental alienation could not be considered as a "diagnosis." The definition continues to expand.

Alienated children often resemble children that are diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (Warshak, 2010, p. 27). These kids are angry, resentful, spiteful and vindictive . The only difference is that their unwarranted behavior is towards one parent, not both. I do not think Parental Alienation is the thorn in our flesh (see 2 Corinthians 12:17). Target parents are often humble enough. Parents and children need support, prayer, and love. Prayer is also needed for ex-spouses’ as many are un-happy and lonely after an un-wanted divorce. We should reserve judgment for God.

In an interesting conclusion, Monika tries to merge psychology with one more Christian rambling. Kids in any type of dysfunction are angry and resentful. As they fail to see any resolution to their problems, these kids can become spiteful and vindictive. These traits are not limited to the kids. And without careful inquiry we are not in a position to know whether that behavior is warranted, or not. We are also not in a position as outsiders to force our beliefs upon these children, especially in cases where domestic abuse may be the underlying cause. We are only looking at the signs and symptoms as they are revealed to us. What we can offer is support and belief in the children's words as they choose to present it to us. They need one positive adult with whom they can bond, and that adult should be his/her preferred parent.

As for the ex-spouse, some are un-happy, some are happier. Some are lonely, some re-partner quickly, some have no intention of partnering, some are dedicated to their child[ren], some have completely other interests. We don't need to assume. But by placing psychology into the dynamic of families, we are serving as judges. What would God think about that?Hopefully the Christian God is different from the God that Catholic priests and children are referring to. Then again, if He believes in parental alienation, maybe not.

parental alienation fraud

Understand Parental Alienation. Read Between the Lines. There Are HUGE Spaces...

Glenn Sacks Gets Served by Domestic Violence Survivor

Psychology and Parental Alienation: Closer to Science?

Parental Alienation and Loving Relationships: Questions We Must Ask

Parental Alienation in "High Conflict" Divorce: Questions We Must Ask

Every Child Has Parental Alienation Syndrome, Even David Goldman's Son!

whores of the court

Canadian Therapists and Lawyers Want to Limit Your Right to File Charges Against Assessors in Child Custody Cases

Amy Baker and Parental Alienation Syndrome: Is This What Scientific Research Looks Like?

Crooks Coming to Canada

Wanted: The PAS Accused

Reconnecting With Your Children in the Face of Danger

Denouncing Parental Alienation

shared parenting

Same Ol Constitutional Argument for Fathers Having Child Custody

Gender Bias in the Florida Court Sytem: Economics of Divorce

The Shared Care Debate in Australia: How to Misrepresent Everything

Canada, Child Custody, and the Shared Parenting Fail

Joint Custody: Plausible, Attractive, but no Evidence Supporting It

Only a Minority of Families with Court-Ordered Joint Custody are Able to Coparent

result of divorce

Parental Alienation and Loving Relationships: Questions We Must Ask

Parental Alienation in "High Conflict" Divorce: Questions We Must Ask

Gender Bias in Florida's Court System: Equitable Distribution and Spousal Support

ANYONE Can Diagnose Parental Alienation Syndrome

Gender Bias in Florida's Court System: Judicial Attitudes

Gender Bias in Florida's Court System: Access to Justice

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Where Do All Of The Perpetrators Go?

Australian Shared Parenting Law Debate

Just six days ago, a Laurence D'Alessandrowas found guilty ofpossessing over 16000 images of child pornography. It was deemed, "The very worst" "inhumane" and "evil".

He was sentenced to 3 years jail. In 3 years time, this man will be out in our community, maybe already married with children or about to be married with children. We wont know. Some unlucky women and child may fall prey to such a predator in the future. With so many privacy laws protecting perpetrators, she may not know until its too late. If she makes the decision to protect the child and leave, he can still obtain unquestioned rights of access to the child through the family court. How that stands in legal terms of the Family court is "in the past".

In a report from the Sentencing Advisory Council, the average rate of sentencing is an appalling figure on the value of a child's livelihood:

Believe it or not, there is actually lesser sentence if the child is related to the abuser:

Considering the average jail term for incest being 4 years, the crimes that warrant higher sentences must be more abhorrent or are they?

A women is sentenced for 5 years over property investment.(source)
A man was sentenced for 3 years for denying the holocaust(source)
Copyright infringements are up to 5 years(Source)
Maximum penalty for juveniles caught stealing is 7- 8 years(source)
A man receives 7 years for taking bribes(Source)

So where do the perpetrators go?

Back into the community, into our unsuspecting lives, taking advantage of a legal system that is wholeheartedly supporting them. Again and again.

Posted by Samantha at 10:12 PM

Labels: Australia, Child Sexual Abuse, Custody, Family Court, Incest, Parent Alienation Disorder, Perpetrators, Rape, Sex Offender dad

Monday, March 29, 2010

Dr.errrr, I mean Lawyer Milfred “Bud” Dale is a ‘story’ teller- rather he creates ‘conflict’ for profit$

http://buddalelaw.com/-Stories--and--Interests-.html

I call this page "Stories" and "Interests" to reflect my approach. Everyone has a special "story." Below are some that captured my "interest."

Every person and every case has a story, sometimes a "cause." These stories speak volumes about the people involved, their situation, and their circumstances. In my story, I have been blessed with wonderful formal instruction from professors at graduate school in psychology and in law school, from supervisors in specialized training programs within major psychiatric hospitals and treatment systems, and from colleagues willing to lend another set of eyes or ears to a difficult case. I am always learning and revising my story.

I seek to help others with their "story." I have also been blessed with literally hundreds of "teachers" about life - my patients during twenty years as a psychologist and my clients during my law school years and beyond. I understand everyone who comes to me has attempted to solve their problems on their own. I work to respect efforts people have made on their own - and choose to add my advocacy efforts in line with their goals. Listening and learning in this way constantly improves my advocacy - to help with your story.

Below are three writings reflecting my interests and efforts at advocacy: helping children in high conflict divorce and working to provide children with access to their biological fathers when these men stepped up to assume parental responsibilities.

Linda Elrod & Milfred Dale, Paradigm Shifts & Pendulum Swings: The Interests of Children in the Balance, 42 Family Law Quarterly 381 (2008). This article covers 50 years of child custody law and was written for the Golden 50th Anniversary of the Family Law Quarterly, a publication of the American Bar Association. Professor Linda Elrod is a distinguished family law professor at Washburn University School of Law. She and I share an interest in helping children and parents in high conflict families. I am one of her law students. This article tracks the developments in law, judicial systems, and social science over the past 50 years.

In the Adoption of A.A.T., 287 Kan. 590, 196 P.3d 1180 (2008)(cert. denied). This is an adoption case where I (and two others) provided writing assistance to William Vickory, a Wichita attorney, in an appeal to the United States Supreme Court. In the case, a biological father sought to regain his biological son after the son had been adopted. The biological father did not know of his son until six months after the child's birth. The biological mother had moved from New York to Kansas while pregnant and told the father the pregnancy had terminated via miscarriage. This was not true. The Kansas Supreme Court took almost a year to decide the controversial case. The United States Supreme Court refused our petition to hear the case. I have an interest in helping responsible fathers assert their legal rights and assume their parental responsibiliites.

In re KMH, 285 Kan. 53, 196 P.3d 1180 (2008)(cert. denied). This was a case about artificial insemination. The document is an Amicus Curiae brief written to the United States Supreme Court on behalf of the children. The case involved a dispute between the sperm contributor and the biological mother of the children. Without a written contract between the parents reflecting their agreement to co-parent the children, the biological father was denied standing to assert his claim as the children's legal father. My position was that the children deserved both parents when both were able and willing to support them.

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Milfred “Bud” Dale, Ph.D., J.D.

Licensed Psychologist & Law Offices of Bud Dale

2201 SW 29^th Street

Topeka, KS 66611

(785)267-0025/Fax (785)266-6546

Email addresses: drbuddale@aol.com & buddalelaw@aol.com

Websites: www.buddalelaw.com www.buddale.com & www.Spiridigliozzi-Dale.com

______________________________________________________________________________________

Milfred Dale, Ph.D., J.D.

PRESENT PROFESSIONAL ACTIVITIES

Private Practice, Law Offices of Bud Dale, 2201 SW 29^th Street, Topeka, KS 66611 (September 2009-Present). Practice emphasizing family law. www.buddalelaw.com .

Divorce filings and requests to modify existing circumstances.

Child in Need of Care – representation of the child or parents.

Adoptions.

Juvenile law including representation of juvenile offenders.

Guardianship and Conservator representation.

Private Practice, Licensed Psychologist, 2201 SW 29^th Street, Topeka, KS 66611

(May, 1995 – Present). www.buddale.com .

Forensic Evaluations of Child Custody and Parenting Time Issues.

Forensic Parenting Assessments.

Forensic Sex Offender Risk Appraisal Examinations.

Forensic Employment Disability Examinations.

Domestic Case Management Services.

Domestic and Core Mediation.

Adult, Adolescent, and Child Psychotherapy.

Family Therapy & Parent Guidance.

Psychological Testing of Adults, Adolescents, and Children.

Consultation to Parents & Schools regarding Special Education Eligibility and Planning.

Expert Witness Evaluation, Review & Testimony in Licensing Board Actions

Spiridigliozzi-Dale, LLC: A Forensic Psychology Consultation Firm, 1711 Massachusetts Street, Lawrence, KS 66044. (October 2009 – Present).

www.Spiridigliozzi-Dale.com .

Forensic Review of Mental Health Expert Reports.

Forensic Consultation to Attorneys on Mental Health Reports.

Pre-Trial Consultation with Attorneys regarding Preparation for Examination and Cross-

Examination of Mental Health Experts.

Forensic Evaluations in Civil Cases involving Personal Injury or Psychological Injury.

Forensic Evaluations in Criminal Cases, Adult and Juvenile, of Competence to Stand

Trial, Criminal Responsibility, and Mitigation Factors.

Education and Training of Attorneys, Law Firms, and Mental Health Professionals

on a Broad Range of Topics related to Psychology and Law.

EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND

Washburn University School of Law, Topeka, KS 66621 (January 2006 – May 2009).

2009 Juris Doctorate Degree with Certificates in Advocacy and Family Law.

Family Law Certificate earned “with distinction.”

The Ohio State University, Columbus, OH (1982-1987).

Doctor of Philosophy (Ph.D.), 1987 in Clinical-Child and Developmental Psychology.

Master of Arts Degree, 1985.

Westminster College, Fulton, MO (1978-1982).

Bachelor of Arts, 1982, in Psychology.

PREVIOUS PROFESSIONAL WORK EXPERIENCE

Washburn University School of Law, Topeka, KS 66621 (August 2008 – May 2009).

Washburn Law Clinic Intern – Family Law cases involving Divorce and Child in Need of Care Cases under the supervision of Professor Lynette Petty.

The Menninger Clinic, Topeka, KS (September 1987- May 1995).

Director, Child and Adolescent Day Treatment Center, (1992-1995)

Outpatient Staff Psychologist (1989-1995).

Director, Adolescent Transitional Program (1989-1991).

Acting Unit Director, Garden Court (Inpatient) Unit for Children (1988-1989).

Postdoctoral Fellow in Clinical Psychology - Child Fellow (1987-1989).

McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School, Belmont, MA (September 1986 - August 1987).

Predoctoral Intern in Clinical Child Psychology and Clinical Fellow in Psychology.

PUBLICATIONS, PRESENTATIONS & RESEARCH PROJECTS

Dale, Bud, Holiday Stress: Staying Within Emotional and Financial Budgets, Topeka Bar

Association Briefings, Vol. XXXI, No. 1, January 2010.

Petition for Writ of Certiorari filed in the United States Supreme Court in In the Matter of the

Adoption of A.A.T. (Peterson v. Jackson), 287 Kan. 590, 196 P.3d 1180 (2008)(cert.

denied, 129 S.Ct. 2013). Co-principal writer with William Vickory, Counsel-Peterson.

Linda D. Elrod & Milfred D. Dale, Paradigm Shifts and Pendulum Swings in Child Custody: The

Interests of Children in the Balance, 42(3) Fam. L.Q. 381 (2008).

Article will be reprinted in the September 2009 issue of GPSolo magazine as part of a “Best of the ABA Sections” Issue.

Brief Amicus Curiae filed in the United States Supreme Court in Hendrix v. Harrington, 169 P.3d

1025 (Kan. 2007). Author. Filed May 22, 2008.

“Evolving Case Management Models in Kansas.” Presented at Heartland Mediators Association

Spring Conference, April 24, 2008.

“Morgan v. Foretich: Anything But Equipose.” Presented as Guest Lecturer to Washburn University School of Law Family Law Seminar, March 13, 2008.

Dale, Bud, Child Psychologist Learns the Law of Child Advocacy, 76 J. K.B.A. 11 (Oct. 2007).

Brief of Amicus Curiae, filed in the Kansas Supreme Court in In the Interest of K.M.H. & In the

Matter of the Paternity of K.M.H., 169 P.3d 1025 (Kan. 2007). Brief was filed by

Professor Linda Elrod & the Washburn University School of Law, Children and Family

Law Center. I served as a student researcher and writer. Filed October, 2006.

“The Best Interests of the Child and Economics: Incommensurable Legal Conflicts, or

Perhaps Not.” Top Paper in Washburn University – Law and Economics Class, Summer 2006.

“Best Interests of the Child ABC’s: Anxieties, Benefits, and Costs Inherent to the Standard, the System, and the Professionals.” Presented at workshop, “Two Days of Basic and Advanced Case Management Training … for Attorneys, Judges, & Case Managers,” on June 16, 2006, in Topeka, KS. I was the workshop organizer and a co-sponsor along with Washburn University School of Law, Children and Family Law Center.

“Case Management and the Internet.” Presented at workshop, “Two Days of Basic and Advanced Case Management Training … for Attorneys, Judges, & Case Managers,” June 16, 2006.

“Children’s Needs – What the Research Tells Us.” Co-Presented with John Spiridigliozzi, Ph.D. at workshop, “Advanced Case Management Training,” on April 15, 2005, in Lawrence, KS. Dr. Spiridigliozzi and I organized and co-sponsored this workshop.

Book Review of P. Tyson and R. Tyson’s (1991) Psychoanalytic Theories of

Development: An Integration in the Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic, (56(4), 1992.

Book Review of F. Pine's (1990) Drive, Ego, Self and Object A Svnthesis for Clinical

Work in the Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic 55(2), 1991.

“High conflict divorce in the shadow of the law: Manage the process, not the people.” Presented at Kansas Association of Court Services Officers meeting in Lawrence, Kansas, on May 13, 2004.

“Child custody evaluations: Strategy & value considerations.” Presented to Washburn University Family Law Class in Topeka, Kansas, on April 6, 2004.

“High conflict divorce and personality disorders: No shortcuts. Manage the process, not the people.” Presented to Scott Wasserman and Associates at the Your Child First law firm on February 10, 2004.

“Pathological Narcissism and Parental Alienation Triangles.” Presented at Shawnee County Domestic Relations Study Group Meeting, February 28, 2003.

"Developmental psychology and psychopathology: Reshaping the clinical-developmental concepts of psychoanalysis. " Presented at the Kansas Psychological Association, March, 1990. I was also awarded the Paul Pruyser Professional Writing Award from the Karl Menninger School of Psychiatry and Mental Health Sciences for this paper in June, 1989.

“Relationships and Responsibilities in Cooperative Education.” Presented to OCEA Annual Conference, May 1985.

"Economically disadvantaged adolescents at work: Curse or blessing." The Ohio State University Unpublished Doctoral Dissertation, 1987.

“Cognitive development and interpersonal functioning of learning disabled adolescent males.” The Ohio State University, Unpublished Masters Thesis, 1985.

PROFESSIONAL LICENSES AND MEMBERSHIPS

Licensed Psychologist: State of Kansas Behavioral Sciences Regulatory Board, effective December 1, 1989-Present.

Licensed Attorney, State of Kansas, September 25, 2009-Present.

American Psychological Association, 1995-Present.

Division, Psychology and the Law, 2002-Present.

Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, 2003-2006.

American Bar Association, Student Member, 2006-Present. Full Member, 2009.

Kansas Bar Association, Full member, 2009.

Topeka Bar Association, Full Member, 2009.

Kansas Psychological Association, 2004-2005.

Supreme Court of the State of Kansas, Approved Mediator, 2002-Present.

OTHER PROFESSIONAL AND CLINICAL EXPERIENCE

The Ohio State University, College of Administrative Sciences, Columbus, OH (1985-1986)

Coordinator for Cooperative Education Program. 1985-86. (Graduate Asst – 30 hrs/wk).

The Ohio State University, Colleges of the Arts and Sciences, Columbus, OH (1982-1985).

Acting Director, 1984-1985. (Graduate Asst – 30 hrs/wk).

Coordinator, Cooperative Education Program, 1982-1985. (Graduate Asst - 20 hrs/wk).

Starr Commonwealth/Hannah Neil Center, Columbus, OH 1986.

Educatuer, 1986. (15-20 hrs/wk).

The Ohio State University, Clinical-Child Psychology Clinic, Columbus, OH (1985).

Advanced Practicum Student, Diagnostic Assessment Emphasis. 1985.

East Central Mental Health Center, Columbus, OH (1983-1984).

Practicum Student, Diagnostic Assessment and Play Therapy Emphasis, 1983-1984.

St. Vincent Children’s Center, Columbus, OH 1983-1985.

Program Leader, 1983-1985. (15-20 hrs/wk).

The Ohio State University & Carl Tishler, Ph.D., ABPP, Columbus, OH (1983)

Practicum Student, Diagnostic and Developmental Interviewing Emphasis, 1983.

The Ohio State University, Columbus, OH (1983).

Practicum Student, Diagnostic Assessment Emphasis, 1982-1983.

Franklin County Children’s Services, Columbus, OH 1982.

Caseworker II, 1982. (Crisis Hotline: 15-20 hrs/wk).

Fulton State Hospital, Fulton, MO 1979-1982.

Assistant Canteen Supervisor, 1979-1982. (15-30 hrs/wk during the school year).

Woodson Children’s Psychiatric Hospital, St. Joseph, MO 1982.

Clinical Casework Assistant I, 1982. (Summer Intern).

Recreational Therapist Intern, 1981. (Summer Intern).

Buchanan County Children’s Home, St. Joseph, MO (Summers 1980-1981).

Childcare Worker and Houseparent, Summers, 1980-1981.

VOLUNTEER ACTIVITIES

Co-Leader, Horizons Solutions for Change Program, June 2007 – Present.

Shawnee County District Court Parent Education for High Conflict Divorced Couples.

The Topeka Bar Association recognized Horizons with the Liberty Bell Award for outstanding community service in May, 2009.

Keys for Networking, Inc. (statewide parent advocacy group) (1993-1996).

Member, Executive Board of Directors, (1994-1996).

Treasurer (1994-1996).

Ohio Cooperative Education Association (1984-1987).

Member, Executive Board, 1984-1986.

Chairman, Subcommittee on National Ad Campaign, 1985-1985.

Chairman, State Fair Committee, 1984-1985.

Member, Government Affairs Committee, 1984-1986.

GRANTSMANSHIP

"Economically disadvantaged adolescents at work." Graduate Student Alumni Research Award forDissertation Research, The Ohio State University, 1986. Amount: $669.

U.S. Department of Education Cooperative Education Grants, The Ohio State University.

College of Administrative Sciences, 1986. Amount: $73,500. (Principal Author).

College of Arts and Sciences, 1985. Amount: $72,000. (Principal Author).

College of Arts and Sciences, 1984. Amount: $101,000. (Principal Author).

"Career development of women and minorities in business." Funded by PPG Industries, Inc. for The Ohio State University Colleges of Administrative Sciences, 1985. Amount: $7,000.

"Career development of women and minorities in the arts and sciences. 'Funded by International Business Machines for The Ohio State University Colleges of the Arts and Sciences. 1985. Amount: $5,000.

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Kansas Court Whore Dr. Milfred “Dale” Bud

Dr. Milford “Bud” Dale Topeka, Kansas

Whores of the Court http://buddale.com/About-Dr-Bud-Dale.html

CUSTODY EVALUATORS
AND PARENTING COORDINATORS
IN THEIR OWN WORDS

A Topeka Kansas Evaluation: Teaching the mother to NOT REPORT sexual or physical Abuse: As Ordered by the Courts;

by Dr. Milford “Bud” Dale.

9. For example, the below commenting MHP -- who has been a parenting coordinator ("case manager") on at least one case known to the author in which a severely battered woman lost custody of her daughter to the abusive father,and who regularly performs custody evaluations as well -- appears oblivious to the impact of MHP fees (which typically are divided equally between the parents) on a parent with substantially lower income than the other:

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "If you want the parents to cooperate, why not add a provision that they must go back to mediation or to a parent coordinator if they cannot come to an agreement. As long as the mediator or parent coordinator changes a reasonable fee, the financial incentives for the parents to cooperate is maintained (assuming each wants to avoid paying a mediator or parent coordinator) and there is a solution for persistent disagreements that is fair..." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, October 24, 2005).

More examples:

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "...I never said that financial issues aren't relevant - of course there are parents who use their children for financial gain. What I said was that I'm not qualified to examine a parent's tax returns..." (California doctorate-level MHP, November 24, 2005).
[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "...issues of child support are totally separate from custody and parenting time determinations. Yet in one case... the attorney continually referenced the fact that I was 'failing to consider and give weight' to the fact that the father was $20,000 behind in child support... Fortunately, my appointment letter addressed that my role was separate from the financial issues... Indeed, I had not failed to give weight to the financial issues. I had totally ignored and disregarded them all along - because that's what I was required to do by law. Some attorneys will attempt to backdoor this issue; that is, they will claim that the child support arrearage represents a character flaw or defect - which might or might not be true. By the way, researching the literature about how fathers get so behind in child support yields some interesting claims on both sides of the issue." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, February 12, 2006).

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "...issues of child support are totally separate from custody and parenting time determinations. Yet in one case... the attorney continually referenced the fact that I was 'failing to consider and give weight' to the fact that the father was $20,000 behind in child support... Fortunately, my appointment letter addressed that my role was separate from the financial issues... Indeed, I had not failed to give weight to the financial issues. I had totally ignored and disregarded them all along - because that's what I was required to do by law. Some attorneys will attempt to backdoor this issue; that is, they will claim that the child support arrearage represents a character flaw or defect - which might or might not be true. By the way, researching the literature about how fathers get so behind in child support yields some interesting claims on both sides of the issue." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, February 12, 2006).

72.The reason for this has been decades of MHP lobbying and propagandizing to the legislatures and legal community.

        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE CALL TO ARMS]: "There is a new bill in the California state legislature which will be of some interest and concern to all of us who do custody evaluations, especially California psychologists. The bill prohibits the use of psychological testing in custody evaluations unless the court grants "a motion for a mental or psychological examination of a parent only for good cause shown..." (California doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).
        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "...The legislator is sponsoring this bill on behalf of women's rights groups, who think that parental alienation is diagnosed too frequently through the use of psychological testing..." (California doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).
        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "This bill appears to prohibit considerably more than psych testing... "Controversial, nonscientific labels, such as parental alienation syndrome, parental alienation, or alienated child, are specifically excluded as allowable diagnoses and for court use." (California doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).
        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "I am responding from a strategic and tactical point of view. In addition to being a forensic psychologist, doing CCE, I am also legislative chair of the Florida Psychological Association. In my experience..." (Florida doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).
        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "I'll go ahead and forward this to her if that's ok with you. the annual Legislative and Advocacy day is coming up mid-March, altho I'm guessing they've already selected the legislation they want psychologists to discuss with legislators... do you know how far along this bill is in the legislative process... I think CPA's stand in general is to strongly oppose any bill that limits psychologists' scope of practice..." (California doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).
        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "Perhaps a letter from those of us who write and teach about use of psychological tests in CCEs might be useful?..." (North Carolina doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).
        [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "I agree also and think a letter from professionals that know testing is a great idea. It seems that if the legislature wants to "do something" perhaps advocating for required continuing education of so many hours in order to allow people to use the tests..." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, February 23, 2007).

115. http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/index.html#myths-and-facts

116. As is usually recognized by the MHP, e.g. Pickar, supra, note 66b, but only when convenient or desired. Compare the following. The first two commentators are uninterested in acknowledging past financial issues that have wreaked family havoc, and arguably bear on character as well as explain motives and feelings of the parties; the third is interested in supporting a father's request to relocate, and so believes that it is within his province to gather and analyze data about prospective financial matters:

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "Tax returns?? Simple issues like one parent claimed 4 kids and there are only two, I can probably figure that out and that speaks to honesty and maybe tracking reality. But I agree that we should not be analyzing tax issues. If it is that complex I can't think how that would be relevant to custody/parenting issues. If it is, both parent provide information and you hire a tax consultant to review it. I can't imagine what could be relevant... I have a case right now where there are federal indictments on one parent to the tune of over 1/2 millions and all kinds of issues around money. Very little of it is relevant (except possible prison and honesty) and the other parent wants to make it all relevant. She brought me a notebook of financial records. That's about her anger about the money - which is relevant to know how angry she is at dad and how that affects her children." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, November 23, 2005).

124. For an example of how background might influence the MHP's investigation, perceptions and conclusions, see Lisa D. Cromer & Jennifer J. Freyd, What Influences Believing Child Sexual Abuse Disclosures? The roles of depicted memory persistence, participant gender, trauma history, and sexism, 31 Psych. Women Q. 1 (2007). From the abstract: "Men believed abuse reports less than did women, and people who had not experienced trauma were less likely to believe trauma reports. Gender and personal history interacted such that trauma history did not impact women's judgments but did impact men's judgments. Men with a trauma history responded similarly to women with or without a trauma history. High sexism predicted lower judgments of an event being abusive. Hostile sexism was negatively correlated with believing abuse disclosures." The study at the University of Oregon found that "young men who have never been traumatized are the least likely population to believe a person's recounting of child sexual abuse." (News release, Believing child sexual abuse claims, U. Or. Univ. News, February 13, 2007, at http://www.uoregon.edu/newsstory.php?a=2.13.07-disbelievers.html)

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE PRECURSOR]: "I just haven't noticed higher abilities in hypothesis testing among psychologists or other mental health professionals. I realize that you have to take a couple of courses in research and statistics to get a graduate degree (in most fields). It doesn't seem to translate into skills in decision-making across the board. E.g. the recent thread on the Kansas custody evaluation and Virginia side trip. Some very off thinking and relevant point missing.
    One might take arguments similar to that you have made and point out that psychologists just aren't trained as investigators when it comes to obtaining information outside of psychological data (police officers are better.) And that lawyers are better trained at issue spotting and weighing information. And that judges have more experience decision-making.
    I also point out that mental health training does not provide actual information and experience relevant to many of the issues that ought to be considered in a custody determination. For example, the financial aspects. For example, educational opportunities. For example, what it's like to actually be a parent with day-in and day-out responsibility for children, how the home is run, the pragmatics of life. An unwed childless 28-year-old Ph.D. just out of school probably hasn't a clue -- and I for one see this lack influencing unworkable recommendations.
    I also point out that skill in testing and coming up with psychological diagnoses does not qualify anyone ipso facto to translate that into parenting ability or even to understand with what kind of or which parent a child's best interests is most likely to be fostered. There is very little translating dsm diagnoses into parenting abilities and child outcomes, especially when neither parent is perfect and foibles and personality defects have to be weighed..." (liz, May 2, 2005).

125. [ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE QUERY]: "My 8 year old son is complaining a lot about being bored in school, to the point it seems to be affecting his overall happiness... I experienced similar problems throughout elementary and high school.. Will talk with the school but am seeking ideas to help him cope..." (Doctorate-level MHP father, April 21, 2005).

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "While such "purity balls" are not something that I and my daughters (ages 14 and 12 next week) have ever or would ever participate in, I can indeed tell you that as a father I feel a desire to help protect my daughters from predators and even poor choices on their part." (Idaho doctorate-level MHP father, April 19, 2006).
[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "I asked my stepdaughter what stores my granddaughter likes... One of the stores she mentioned was Victoria's Secret. Why would a high school junior want to buy anything in Victoria's secret? Has it changed in terms of what it sells? I know they all like to dress like streetwalkers, but this is ridiculous." (Minnesota masters-level MHP mother, February 28, 2005).
[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "School is important for kids... why not look and take the time to get good data from people who see them more than we do? And who see them sometimes more than their parents do. I'm going to stop now and call my son's school. Seems there is an academic counselor... who is helping my son with sending emails to college soccer coaches. She's helping my son and deserves my support... the students at school call this counselor, "Momma." And I know why. Aren't some kids just luckier than others?" (Kansas doctorate-level MHP father, May 10, 2005).

...When There Still Isn't Enough Work, Doing Trainings for Everyone (especially those that push make-work ideas) and Reviewing Other MHPs

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "I do CCEs and I function as a court-appointed "Case Manager" in Kansas. Kansas calls parent coordinators "Case Managers" to avoid confusion - lol. I have also twice attended AFCC sponsored training on parent coordination. The Colorado group (Christie Coates, Robert LaCrosse, And Betsy Duvall) did a 2 day training in St. Louis in November, 2003, and Joan Kelly did a 2 day training in Chicago in June 2004. Both of these training programs emphasize the "Divorce Impasse" Model that Janet Johnston put together. This is a model that I find helps in CCEs and parent coordination/case management. The second AFCC task force has just completed its task of developing model standards for parent coordinators (See AFCC website or request backchannel)..." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, May 16, 2005).

"Do a Bonding Assessment"

[ANONYMOUS LISTSERVE COMMENT]: "I do not know of a research based protocol for a 'bonding assessment.' It seems the folks that do them around here do an observation of touching, smiling, eye contact, warm interactions etc which are good and important and look at basic needs and are they met. I was wondering if there are protocols that are considered 'standard of care' and or are reseach based." (Kansas doctorate-level MHP, January 14, 2007.)

For more about the GREAT Dr. Milford “Bud” Dale please visit the following links.

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/site-index/site-index-frame.html#soulhttp://www.thelizlibrary.org/therapeutic-jurisprudence/index.html

http://washburnlaw.edu/news/2009/2009-03cflc-horizons.php

Washburn Law Students Active in Horizons Program

Dr. Milfred "Bud" Dale, Ph.D., and Lauren S. Douglass, third-year students who are part of the Children and Family Law Center, have been actively involved in the Horizons, Solutions for Change program in the Shawnee County District Court. This court sponsored 12-week educational program designed for high conflict divorced/never married parents provides parents with the tools to reduce their conflict.

Bud Dale, a child psychologist, has co-facilitated the adult program since 2007. Parents meet twice a month in group sessions which use a variety of educational materials and activities. Sheri Keller, the court service officer who started the program in 2006 said of Bud, "His knowledge and expertise in the area of emotional behavior and the impact of conflict on children is astounding. His 'tough-minded' approach, therapeutic skills and experience demand that parents to think outside the box and to take a personal inventory of what they bring to perpetuating the conflict in their families." Keller also appreciates his support in encouraging her to continue to "take on" these tough families and high conflict cases. The community benefits greatly from his volunteerism.

There is a Horizons For Kids Program for children between 5 and 17. The children are encouraged to express themselves through art work which is displayed on the third floor of the Shawnee County Courthouse. Lauren Douglass began volunteering at the program's inception in January 2007 and has been a "stable pillar" of the program. Keller states, "Lauren's interactions with the children have been truly amazing. The children enjoy working with a younger adult who understands and relates to them." In addition to giving her time and talents, Douglass has recruited other law students to help with the program.

Keller also noted that Professor Linda Elrod has contributed to the success of the Horizons program by speaking at practically every "first" group session. She not only shares the history of domestic law in Kansas but also her own personal philosophy and expertise. Professor Elrod is passionate in her belief that "high conflict is the number one factor negatively affecting the long-term well-being of children" and encourages parents to place their children's needs above their own wants.

Dr. Bud Dale, third-year law student; Mindy Wicks, first-year law student; Joyce Marcum, licensed specialist clinical social worker with Stonestreet and Assoc.; Lauren Douglass, third-year law student; and Sheri Keller, project coordinator, have been actively involved in the Horizons, Solutions for Change program in the Shawnee County District Court. The court-sponsored program designed for high conflict divorced/never married parents provides parents with the tools to reduce their conflict.

Posted April 1, 2009.

Claudine Dombrowski Photos of Abuse

As you view these photos keep in mind that the court awarded FULL CUSTODY of their daughter to the "man" who did this to Claudine.

To read Claudine's history that was submitted to the IACHR, click here

If you want to know some of the many reasons women stay in abusive relationships, click here

AFTER THE BIRTH OF HER DAUGHTER, 1994

AFTER EX-HUSBAND BEAT HER WITH A CROW BAR, 1996

AFTER EX-HUSBAND RAPED AND BATTERED HER, 2000

AFTER EX-HUSBAND HIRED SOMEONE TO ASSAULT HER, 2003

THE "COFFEE TABLE" IN THE FATHER'S HOME IS A CHILD'S COFFIN. MOUNTED ON THE WALL ABOVE THE SOFA IS A GUN.

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